Online Dating Tips To Avoid Liars
According to scientific research, 90 PERCENT OF PEOPLE LIE IN THEIR ONLINE DATING PROFILES. That’s a huge number! But, it doesn’t really surpirse me.
You constantly here of these online dating horror stories where someone goes to find a date online and when the two go to meet up in person and one person looks completely different or acts completely different than what they let on in their profile.
This is not something that you want to happen to you. It can be completely horrifying.
So, when you’re online dating, you have to be smart. You need to know how to spot a lie from a mile away by following certain online dating tips to avoid certain situations.
Here are some examples of common lies that people say in their profile along with my assumption of what they really mean.
LIE: “I’m tall dark and handsome”
TRUTH:Â “I’m short, pale, and homely.”
Medical News today says that 52.6% of men lie about their height and their looks when they’re online dating. (39% for women). So do not expect him or her to look exactly like they say they look. The facts prove otherwise. Whoever has to announce to the world how handsome they are is probably bending the truth ever so slightly. There are lots of attractive people on dating sites, but the ones who have to say it, are less likely to be those people.
LIE: “I have a petite frame and I’m small”
TRUTH:Â “In high school I had a petite frame and was small. Now that I’m 27 years old and haven’t had a boyfriend in 10 years, I’m fat and sloppy. You’ve probably noticed that all my photos are face shots only. That’s because my face still looks the same; all the fat went to my belly and ass!”
Unfortunately there’s very few ways of actually proving that the pictures that that adorable petite girl posts on her profile page are up-to-date or even really her. If someone has to say it in writing about how gorgeous they are, then chances are they’re bending the facts a little… or a lot. Watch out!
LIE: “I’m not interested in playing head games”
TRUTH:Â “I’ve been screwed over so many times I’m a bitter bitch and I make sure I tell everyone that I AM NOT INTERESTED IN PLAYING GAMES.”
In truth, every relationship is a bit of a head game. It’s not like you’re going to screw this person over, like they have been screwed so many times before, but they’re entering into this conversation with that presumption. Do you really want to be trying to have a date with someone with their fists up all of the time, just waiting for you to slip up so that they can accuse you of playing head games with them?
LIE: “I just got out of a long term relationship so I’m mainly interested in meeting some cool, new people”.
TRUTH:Â “I just got out of a horrible relationship where we never had sex. Now I want to go and fuck everything and anyone walking. I just don’t think it’s appropriate to say that upfront, even though that’s what I really want.”
Be careful about anyone that announces up front that they just got out of a long-term relationship. Chances are they’ll be pretty bitter about it and could very well be miserable company. Granted, there’s probably lots of people on online dating sites that have recently got out of long-term relationships, but if they’re announcing it upfront then it’s probably pretty important to them. They’re probably particularly indiscriminate about who they date and they will likely make for unpleasant company.
LIE: “I like good wine, live music, art shows, and being spontaneous”
TRUTH:Â “I have no idea what I want I just want to impress you. I do like getting wasted and dancing up against girls at bars though.”
Think about it, who doesn’t like good wine, live music, art shows, or being spontaneous? Â If that chimera of a person really existed you probably wouldn’t find them on a dating site. This is like the old phony psychic trick, where they say, “Is there someone in the audience with a letter M in their name?” Knowing full well that there’s a high probability that someone will fit that description. If you’re attracted to somebody’s mutual interests, stop to think about how general those interests might actually be. Will there actually be anything that you have in common in the end?
LIE: “I’m a CEO of an internet start up”
TRUTH: “My internet start up is a total fail and now I spend most of my time watching porn on my laptop in my mom’s basement.”
What is an internet startup? Are you Mark Zuckerberg, or do you have a WordPress blog?  I know, I know. I have a WordPress blog that you’re reading right now, but I’m not giving myself any fake CEO titles. Really all companies start out as someone with a hope and a dream in a basement somewhere, but most of them never get past that point. Just because someone can technically dub himself CEO because he’s making all of the decisions about his “company” doesn’t mean that he’s a millionaire.
Ok, ok, you might be thinking that these “real meanings” are a little exaggerated and although they might be, there it still some truth to it! I just want to make sure that you’re not doing anything too naive while dating online. The purpose of these articles have always been to educate the online dater so that they’re making the smartest decisions possible. If you know what to look out for, then you’ll have the most success in the cutthroat world of online dating. Ultimately I just want buy viagra online dubai, order aciclovir from canada. to scare you so that you go into your online dating adventure with the knowledge that a lot of people lie, so be careful!
Do you have any online dating stories about lies people have told in their profiles? Please share!
“I just got out of a long term relationship so I’m mainly interested in meeting some cool, new peopleâ€.
I avoid these sorts of profiles like the plague! They are the FIRST to ask what my bra size is or “When was the last time you got laid?” I read right through these lines every time.
Great list! Thanks for posting.
It's hard to sift through what's honest and what's a lie online, that's why it's so important to meet or skype or see each other somehow as soon as possible. I had one guy I met online who ended up looking completely different and when I asked him why he said he used his cousin's picture because he didn't want anyone to see him online. Needless to say that date ended quickly. Thanks for shedding light on a big issue!!
Your exaggerations are still closer to the truth than the original “lie”. I never understood why people lie about their weight and height…is’t just absurd! Besides I’m not sure if them lying on their profile automatically disqualifies them from my dating pool because they’re actually not good looking, they lied, or they are just such freakin’ morons for thinking that they would get away with the lie! Dude, your profile said you were 5’10″ and you’re actually 5’5″…someone might notice! Great post!
I wish it wasn't so, but SO many people lie on those dating profiles that I started waiting ungodly lengths of time before meeting in person to try to root out the lies. Thanks to Skype you can help get rid of the physical ones a bit sooner. Some of the others they trip up on. I see NO point in lying about who/what you are when you are looking for love.
I completely agree. It's too bad thought because some people have to find out about the lies the hard way! :-$ I once was chatting with this girl and she claimed she was average body weight and her pictures looked like she was! Then when I met her in person I was in complete shock. She was very over weight. The fact that she lied about it is what really irritated me.
Skype is a god send! I suggest all people take advantage of skype, or even web cam chat. That way you can really filter out the lies about physical appearance.