What’s Wrong With Casual Dating Online?

The other day I was walking around the streets of the major North American city of which I reside, and I was feeling a little lonely. Being a single guy,like myself, there can be often days when you wake up alone, don’t talk to anyone in particular (no, the guy down the street at the deli doesn’t count), and go to bed alone. Well that is is you don’t bother doing anything about it. I’ve been a fan of the online dating scene for some time and I figured that I’d try my luck with vardenafil cheap 5 mg price, generic macrobid. some of the singles on my latest favorite adult dating site. I’ve been using EroticAds.com quite a bit lately and I’ve been going on some excellent dates with that, so my first thought was to log in to EroticAd’s mobile site and see if there were any free and available singles around at that moment.

But then I got a slightly wilder idea. Like I said, I’ve been using the online dating services really forever at this point, even back in the dark early days of the internet when the phrase “online dating” was still considered a taboo term amongst most singles. I’m happy to see that we’ve evolved as a species and now not only ins the internet a far  more common tool in just about everyones’ lives, but amongst singles, finding a date online has become almost de riguer. So naturally my first instinct would have been to go right EroticAd’s mobile sight and check to see any other available singles. Isn’t that were everyone is these days? Well I figured that I’d try something new, or rather something old, in a sense. I decided to go up to a girl sitting by herself and strike up a conversation.

Before the days of the internet, a guy like me could get the occasional date, but it wasn’t always so easy. Even though I’d like to think that I exude confidence and poise, and definitely since I’ve been a regular dater that’s been the case, back in the bad old days, I was usually the shy type that had trouble starting a conversation with a stranger out of nowhere. Well thankfully I’m older now and I’ve been around the block a few times, dating-wise. I figured that I’d know what to expect. What’s the worst that could happen?

I know that people don’t usually do this kind of thing that much anymore, not with the prevalence of the internet when it comes to dating. I happened to be on the street in a part of town that I don’t go to that often. Sometimes, I’ll just like to do a little casual exploring of my city and just hop on the subway and see where it takes me. So here I am in an unfamiliar neighborhood and I feel like a coffee. It’s the middle of the afternoon in early summer. The birds are singing. There’s a mild breeze coming out of the southwest. I open up my Yelp app to see where the best place to get a cup of coffee would be (I know I said I wasn’t going to use the internet for this, but come on, it’s not like it’s the twentieth century or anything, we can still use some assistance).

I find a highly rated hip looking independent coffee shop just two blocks from where I’m standing. When I enter the heavy smell of fresh coffee beans hits me and I order my standard, a double Americano and a cup of ice on the side. Looking around the coffee shop, the selection of unaccompanied girls seemed sadly wanting. There was a couple sitting at the corner table checking the free weekly paper for what looked like maybe movie times. They were either married or had at least been together for a long time. They had looks of minor contempt at each other and you could hear a bit of their conversation and how they were subtly undercutting each other. (Thank god I’m not married!) There was a middle aged woman with a three-year-old boy that was clinging to her, but definitely didn’t look like hers. I’m not about to hit on a nanny, at least not while she’s working. There was an older man doing a crossword by the window. The barrista was a heavily tattooed and pierced guy who seemed to have a bit of the snide attitude barrista’s often get at independent coffee shops after being asked for Grande Lattes one too many times. Like I said, not too much in the way of available single gals for me to choose from.

While I’m waiting for my coffee, almost out of habit I open up the EroticAds mobile app. I had briefly forgotten about my mission, to pick up a girl in a more “traditional” way. I don’t notice someone else coming into the coffee shop behind me. Before I know it, there’s what I think is my coffee waiting for me on the counter, but before I have a chance to pick it up, an absolutely stunning girl walks around me and grabs it. Not sure whether I should say something, since I wanted my coffee and yet there’s a smoking hot gal apparently stealing it, the barrista puts another coffee down on the counter, this time accompanied by a cup of ice. Well it looks like I hadn’t noticed this beautiful girl come in, and order my the exact same drink. What a perfect opener!

Well here is where it would appear to get really amazing. It turns out that just as I was having a casual walk around this new neighborhood, she was as well taking a break from work (she works from home, it turns out) and stopped into her favorite coffee shop. She has a few minutes to spare, so after a little bit of casual small talk about the confusion of the coffee orders, I convince her to sit with me for a few minutes. It looks like success for me! I’m on a coffee date and I didn’t even have to go online to make this happen. Am I ready to change my ways and forsake the allure of online dating?

So I’m not going to give this girl’s name away, since she might be reading this, but we do sit down and have what started out to be a great conversation about all sorts of stuff. She works as a film editor and often has long hours doing rush jobs. I told her that I was a dating blogger who specializes in online dating and that got slightly too quizzical eyebrow raise. That should have been my first clue that something might be off here. When I start talking about how great I find casual dating though, the timbre of the date takes a sharp turn. Unfortunately, she’s tried the casual dating scene online, and she didn’t have a very good time with it. All of a sudden she mentions that her boyfriend is coming back from a two week trip around the world and she has to be getting home to straighten up the place. I know that I probably put my foot in my mouth somehow with this girl so I kind of apologize and she makes a hasty and awkward exit.

Well at least I wasn’t in my own neck of the woods that time. I doubt I’ll be heading back to that neighborhood any time soon. I was definitely taken aback by that girl’s negative reaction to talking about casual dating, but I guess the world is full of a lot of different people with a lot of different ideas. I’ve had enough relationships to not let something like this bother me too much. To each her own, really. I’ll probably stick to finding most of my dates online for a while. At least those people don’t have hang-ups about casual dating.